10 Questions That Could Change Your Relationship


A friend of mine recently joked that I’m in the breakup management business.

Although I like to think I do more than that, there is some truth to that description. The next two weeks are the busiest of the year in the break-up management business.

Sometimes it’s because Valentine’s related disappointment will bring too many long-held resentments to a head. Sometimes it’s because one partner has been planning a break up but didn’t have the heart to do it before the big day. Whatever it is, the end of February is traditionally an onslaught of break ups. Relationships on the brink implode this time of year. Unfortunately it’s not uncommon for one partner not to know they were in a relationship on the brink.


No matter what the state of your relationship is this is a very good time to focus on strengthening the ties that keep two people together. It seems counter-intuitive to say that the quality of communication degrades over time. However, in many cases it’s true. Couples slowly quit having meaningful conversation. They quit facing the hard issues and stop asking difficult questions.

These are ten questions every couple should ask each other at least once a year. These questions can be uncomfortable. The answers might be hard to hear. However, this exercise is worth it because these questions provide input that can be the framework to save a relationship or make a strong one even stronger. It’s easy to think you will know the answers in advance. Don’t make assumptions. Do this with an open heart and open mind. Love that lasts is in the details.

  1. Do you ever feel like I take you for granted?
  2. Do you feel like I support your dreams and ambitions?
  3. Am I doing my part in our home?
  4. Do you feel like I make you a priority?
  5. Do you think we still share a vision for our future?
  6. Are we having enough physical intimacy and sex for you?
  7. Is there enough romance in our relationship for you?
  8. Is there anyway I consistently let you down?
  9. Is there anything you are harboring resentment towards me about we should talk about?
  10. Are you as happy in this relationship as you’d like to be?


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Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the newly released hit book, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan.

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