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3 Ways to Rock Your Dominant Vibration Today and for the Rest of Forever

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Most people find deliberate creation when something is going wrong in their lives. I know I did. I'd just gone through a nasty divorce. I was making a mess of being single by dating pretty much anything with a pulse. I was doing the opposite of taking care of myself, and my health was in a downward spiral.

My life was a progressive trainwreck. However, my most pressing issue was money. I wasn't exactly making ends meet. Food, rent, and utilities were pretty important. I always had money on my mind, or to be more specific, the lack of money.

So, when I first learned about the law of attraction, I figured I would point it at my money problems, and everything would magically get better, and it did, a little tiny bit.

However, as I was focusing my ass off on improving my money vibration, I was pretty much ignoring the fact that almost all my relationships were still circling the toilet bowl, and my body wasn't holding up well under the weight of the mess I'd made. I was getting progressively less healthy in almost every way. My chronic migraine was the least of my health problems.

Sure, my money vibe improved a little, but it couldn't improve too much because my dominant vibration was below water all the time. Putting it simply, the overtone of my entire life was the shits. If I could have cleared my head and focused on wealth 27/7 for a week, it would have barely moved the dial on my overdrawn bank account.

There is no part of your life that lives in isolation from the rest of your life. So, if you want anything to change for more than a few days or few minutes, you need to focus on raising the tide of your entire life. You know, a rising tide lifts all ships.

Let's face it, focusing on solving your problem is usually still focusing on your problem. That's not likely to be super useful. When you set your sights an entire life that rocks, everything, including your "problem," improves.

Cliffnotes: No matter what your problem is, it's a dominant vibration problem.

1. Learn to master your dominant vibration thought equation.

Almost everyone has a ratio of negative to positive thoughts that stays pretty consistent. You're probably going to think I'm a crazy person when I tell you I count just about everything. I might be a little or a lot OCD. So, it's super easy for me to keep a running tab on that ratio whenever I'm talking to someone.

Most people are thinking negative to positive thoughts by a 5-7 negative to 1 positive thought ratio. A lot of people run a ratio that's even higher on the less empowered side of that equation.

And you know what? There is nothing particularly mysterious about the results of that dominant vibration equation. People who stay on the positive side of that ratio tend to have lives that work. People who drift to the dark side - not so much. Your life is a product of that ratio. It's that simple.

If you want to make a massive and almost immediate upgrade to your over-all situation, shift your ratio of negative to positive thoughts deliberately and intentionally.

Doing that is simple, but not always easy. Here's how you do it: Every single time you catch yourself thinking a stinky, disempowered, crap ass thought, force yourself to think ten positive thoughts right on top of it.

Imagine your life if you were living a ten to one positive to negative thoughts ratio. I have a feeling it would be pretty cool. You should try it.

Even if you don't totally buy into law of attraction, you'd have to admit positive thoughts lead to positive behaviors. So, get on it.

2. Obsess about what's going right.

If you're human, chances are very high, the majority of your brain space gets occupied by the one or two things that are going wrong or aren't working well in your life. The more you think about what's not working, the bigger it gets in your head and in your life.

However, even though one or two things in your life might totally suck, chances are pretty high, about one hundred things totally freaking rock.

The sun came up, and you're still breathing. You probably have a home and people who love you. There are a lot of things to be totally grateful for. Obsess about those, and when I say obsess, I mean oooooooze that obsessing.

Build altars in your life to the things you already have.
Celebrate the things you love about yourself.
Create holidays in honor of your own greatest achievements.
Bask in the beauty of what nature serves up for you.

Fill your life with so much obsessing about what's working that anything else just can't get air time.

3. Be an uncompromising vibration snob when it comes to who you spend your time with.

You know the adage: You are a compilation of the five people you spend the most time with.

Vibrationally, no truer words have ever been spoken.

Vibration spreads like a virus. If you're spending a lot of time with people who are predominantly positive in their outlook, eventually, you'll catch some of that. Successful, happy people tend to be surrounded by successful, happy people. If you're spending time with folks who are struggling with everything all the time and hating life, eventually, you'll catch some of that too.

Now, I am not saying that if someone you love or like goes through a rough patch, you should ditch them like they have the plague. Of course, you stand by people you love when they need you most. However, I'd be really mindful about hitching your horse to relationships with people who spend most of their time in some sort of struggle. I've learned that lesson the hard way.

Form relationships with people who are where you want to go or have what you want to have. I know it sounds harsh, but you have to be very careful not to define yourself by the vibration of your past by holding onto relationships you've outgrown or are outdated. Your closest relationships are a mirror of your identity and a predictor of your future.

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Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the newly released hit book, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan.

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