How do I Attract the Relationship of My Dreams Using Law of Attraction?


I’m a Law of Attraction Relationship Coach. So, not too surprisingly one of the questions I get asked most frequently is, “How do I attract the relationship of my dreams using Law of Attraction?”

I believe one of the biggest challenges for attracting anything you want using deliberate creation is familiarity. To attract anything you have to be a vibrational match to it. That’s LOA 101. However, if you’ve never had it, or can’t imagine it, how do you get aligned? It’s pretty hard to just visualize or meditate on something you aren’t familiar with. You can’t conjure something you don’t know.

A lot of times when people are trying to attract the “perfect” relationship or the “perfect” mate, they are looking for a kind of partner they’ve never had before. They are probably intending to uplevel their game a bit. But, how do you attract a really awesome guy or incredibly fantastic woman, if you’ve never dated one? It’s unfamiliar territory.

This was my dilemma when I was dating. I had a lot of experience dating un – or underemployed assholes. I had experience dating men who drank too much or got angry too easily. I’d done my share of dating deadbeats. What I didn’t have was any experience being in a relationship with a great guy, who was financially stable, easy on the eyes and easy to be around. I knew for sure I didn’t want to repeat what I’d done in the past. However, I didn’t have any way of aligning with something better, because it wasn’t in my field of experience. Not even close. So, how’s a girl suppose to attract a guy that doesn’t seem possible or real?

Step one – create the vision. Figure out exactly what, or who, you’re trying to attract. Get detailed. Go big, probably bigger than seems comfortable.

Step two – get out in the world and stalk it.

In my case that meant, getting out of my head and out in the real physical world and studying the kind of man I wanted to attract. It was an incredibly fun and rewarding game to play. Where would he show up? How does he behave? Who’s this guy hanging out with? Where do great, successful guys in their natural habitat hang out?

Basically, I had to go out and find a bunch of men who’d previously been, “out of my league”. Not for the purpose of dating them, but for the purpose of acclimating to them.

You have to look for evidence that what you want is really and cozy up to it.

Deliberate creation works better, and is a lot more fun, when it’s a contact sport, quite literally.

A lot of times deliberate creators get stuck in their heads. We say, “it’s an inside game”, and it is. However, we live in a physical world and that world is our laboratory. The physical world is actually a really incredible place to play. By getting out into the world, and actually physically experiencing the energy of the things we want to attract we are improving our alignment to that exponentially in lots of ways. It’s easy to do the inside game of visualization and creation when we’ve engaged our outside senses to experience something. Sometimes you’ve literally got to see, taste, touch, hear and smell.

This applies to anything you want to attract.

Want more money? Get familiar with it.

Want a great relationship? Study them.

Want to attract a great man or woman? Observe some. Actually, observe many – close up.

So, next time you’re wondering why you’re not attracting what you want, it might be time to take your deliberate creation practice down from the meditation mountain top and out your front door. Go do some detective work. Stalk your desire. Get physical with it. You’ll probably be surprised how much fun it is to get up close and personal with what you want to create.


Sharing is sexy. If you liked this article, share, comment, or pass it on.

Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the newly released hit book, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan.

contact us

/ keep in touch