How to Get Over a Broken Heart


Everyone wants to know how to get over a broken heart.
And yet, if you’re willing to let a breaking heart have it’s way with you if you’re willing to pay the price of suffering the insufferable, what’s on the other side of that is an evolution of the most beautiful kind.
Most people live in the grey areas, the spaces in between the dark and the light.

Most people try to avoid the lows at all costs. They aren’t comfortable in the depths.
Most people strive for equanimity and stability.

They crave balance.


The thing is, we don’t grow in the middle. Very few moments are legitimately life changing, and the few that come along are almost always on the ragged

Edges. Sometimes those moments are unbearably painful.
Sometimes they rise out of us on the wings of joy and elation.
Those moments that change us don’t happen in the middle.

Comfortable feels cushy, but it’s often a very stagnant.
Growth is almost always uncomfortable.
Your ability to feel joy is directly proportionate to your willingness to embrace your pain.
You cannot numb yourself to the things you don’t want to feel without numbing yourself to the best of what you do want to feel. Emotions come in a range and you simply can’t expand the range on the high end if you aren’t willing to expand the range on the other side.

There is great and immense beauty in the depths of a breakup or the sorrow of profound loss.
It is in those places, those seemingly dark places where many of us see ourselves for the first time.

You may feel lost.
You may feel wounded.
You may feel defeated.
However, your willingness to own all that you feel opens the door for something magical to happen.
You unfold.
You unpeal.
You become.


Life has very unique ways of making us tender. However, the more vulnerable we become the less fragile we really are –
And yet-
Most people still prefer to live in the middle. They are safe from the pain but veiled from the ecstasy of what life can deliver.

People who feel their pain and look for the beauty in the depths of their souls rarely get stuck in the shadows.


People who spend their lives running from their heartbreak are never really free.

It’s always right behind you. You can’t ever get far enough ahead to rest. Running from your heartbreak kills you a little bit every day.

However, nothing you feel will kill you if you’re willing to go into it, through it completely, it will change you, for the better, in more ways than you can imagine. You will find yourself there, on the other side of your pain, and you will find that you’re more beautiful, on every level, than you were before. More importantly, the beauty of that unfolding will leave you more alive to the joy of this technicolor joy ride we all share.


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Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the newly released hit book, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan.

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