How to Keep the Love Alive – What You Can do This Weekend, Part 3


For the next few Fridays, I am going to do a series about what to do this weekend to make your relationship better. This series is intended to inspire you to notice and nurture your relationship in healthy and positive ways, rather than only responding when you’re in crisis. Small changes can make a big difference, and there’s no time like this weekend to give your love life, a little extra love.

It’s the nature of the game of life. When you are in the beginning of anything, you tend to be very intentional about it. It’s somewhat unfamiliar. You’re footing isn’t as certain. You’re enjoying the newness and bringing your best stuff. The beginnings of relationships are very much that way. Everyone knows people are on their best behavior in the beginning of a relationship. However, it goes beyond behavior. In the beginning, you are very acutely aware of how you are feeling, and how you want to feel.


However, as the days as weeks roll by, you become much less aware of your feelings and what you’re bringing to the table. You aren’t nearly as concerned about showing up to dinner in a really bad mood. You are less present to the moment when you’re together. You’re less aware of wanting to feel pretty or sexy. It’s really easy to let the energy of the relationship get sloppy and sloppy energy will always eventually produce sloppy results. Sometimes those sloppy results look like conflict and frustration. A lot of the time those sloppy results look a lot like the doldrums. It feels apathetic and sluggish. When the energy in a relationship becomes haphazard, the joy and the passion can’t thrive.

A healthy relationship is a sacred place. We all know that. However, it will only be as sacred as the energy we bring to it. When you aren’t on the top of your energy game you can’t expect a relationship to remain sacred. If you want an incredible relationship, you can’t leave it to chance. So, the question of the day is,

how intentional are you about the energy you bring to your relationship?

Are you bringing love?

Are you bringing passion?

Are you bringing joy?

Are you bringing your sexy vibe?

Or are you using your relationship as a dumping ground for all the trash you pick up during your day?

Now I get it. I really do. A relationship is supposed to be a safe place. It’s supposed to be the place you can be yourself, be most vulnerable. However, there is a difference between vulnerability and carelessness.

Your relationship can only be a product of the energy you invest in it.


Your mission for this weekend, if you choose to accept it, it to get very intentional about the kind of energy you want to bring to your relationship and what that will create. Experiment with practicing some different vibes. Decide how you want to show up and then bring your own party. Now you might be wondering what difference that’s going to make if you’re the only one investing new energy. Trust me on this, any change in the chemistry will change the outcome. Not to mention, the highest vibration always wins.

Intentional energy hygiene is the single most important thing you can do for your relationship.

Start this weekend.


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Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the newly released hit book, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan.

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