Monday Mailbag – Can I Use Law of Attraction to Stay Safe?


Dear Lisa,

This might be the strangest question you ever get. Last month my sister was attacked on her way back to her dorm after a night class. Almost right away victim services on campus connected her with a counselor and she’s been getting therapy twice a week since. She seems to be coping really well.

I, on the other hand, can’t believe there is even such a thing as victim services on a college campus. Why do we live in a world where college campuses need that? I walk home from the subway in the dark almost every day after work. I’m having a lot of anxiety about my safety. I literally sweat and shake when I get off the train. I’m even having nightmares. It didn’t happen to me, but I feel terrified anyway.

My question is, can I use law of attraction to stay safe? I’m afraid my fear alone is creating me becoming a victim, but I can’t seem to stop myself from replaying these fear based thoughts.



Dear Sarah,

First of all, let me say how sorry I am that happened to your sister. Secondly, you should know your reaction is perfectly normal. On a very primal level, we are often more affected by things that happen to those we value most than things that happen directly us.

Now I am going to give you an answer that on face value might seem very anti-loa. My advice to you is this. Take a self-defense class. Carry pepper spray. Vary your route home. Stay off your cell phone, keep your head up, and pay attention to your surroundings. Most of all trust your gut if you feel something is really wrong.

I realize that doesn’t seem like a normal or appropriate law of attraction answer. However, we know this. Anything you do that firms up your vibration of feeling safe and powerful in the world is going to put the universe to work to answer that call. Sometimes, the easiest way to work deliberate creation to our advantage isn’t to change your thoughts, but instead to work with them. So, whatever actual real world steps you can take to feel safer will do double duty for you.

You might also invite extra angels to walk with you.
You might visualize yourself arriving safely at your door before you get off the subway.
You might imagine a shield of protection surrounding you when you leave your home.
You might practice breathing deeply from your heart to reduce stress and lower your fear vibration.

You might also reach out for some professional help yourself. This was a serious traumatic event, and you are having symptoms of secondary traumatic stress disorder. Your sister is lucky to be getting the help she needs. You might want to make some of that luck for yourself.

Big giant hugs to both of you,

*This letter was shared with reader permission and names have been changed


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Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the newly released hit book, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan.

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