When Should I Start Dating Again?

I feel like I’ve done a lot of personal work since the break up. In a lot of ways I feel like a better person than I was before. I know I have more to do though. This break up really showed me I have a lot of holes in my sense of self. I know I’m not as happy as I want to be. The thing is, I don’t know if I’m ever going to want to date again. Some of my friends think that’s normal because it’s too soon. Some of my friends think it’s time. I did actually go on a date a couple of weeks ago with a really nice guy who’s asked me out again. I don’t want to go, and there’s no good reason for me not to. He was really nice.

My question is, when should I start dating again? I don’t want to be alone forever. Avoiding relationships doesn’t seem healthy. I kind of think if I just get back into it, it’ll get easier. What do you think?

Alisha

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Dear Alisha,

I think you know in your heart of hearts, it’s not time for you to be in the dating game again. You instinctively know that. In my experience people almost never wait too long. It’s all too common for people to rush back to dating much too soon. So, it’s probably wise to error on the side of slower and not faster.

The answer to your question is: Date when you feel perfectly ready. Date when you think it will be fun. Most importantly date when and only when you truly love being single.

When you are loving everything about being single and loving your life, you are perfectly lined up to be attracting other people who have lives they love.

There are at least 100 horrible reasons to start dating. A few of them are included in the list below.

• You want to be distracted from your life.

• You are looking for someone to make you happier.

• You are bored.

• You are lonely.

• You feel like you should have been married by now.

• You want children.

• You are looking for someone to just do things with.

• There is a stigma about being single.

• Other people think you should be dating.

• It seems like it should be time.

None of those are good reasons to date. Dating for the wrong reasons leaves you needy, vulnerable, likely to attract other people who aren’t fully happy. The only good reason to date is because you’ve got an amazing life and can’t wait to share it with someone. Period.

Take care of yourself. Take as much time as you want. Time is your most precious commodity. Spend it on your happiness and everything else will fall into place.

Big love,

Lisa

*This Letter Was Shared With Reader Permission And The Names Have Been Changed.

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Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the newly released hit book, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan.