Why Isn’t Law of Attraction Fixing my Marriage


Dear Lisa,

Several years ago now, along with everyone else, I watch the movie, The Secret. I loved it. In fact I loved it so much I bought a copy. In the last few months, my husband and I have been having some real problems in our marriage. I will spare you the details, but I will tell you, we have discussed a trial separation. It’s not really what I want, but I really don’t want to live like this either.

A few weeks ago in a moment of desperation, I was inspired to dig out my copy of The Secret and watch it again and was inspired to make a list of positive aspects about my husband. I felt absolutely certain it would be a turn around point.

It wasn’t.

We’re still fighting like rabid dogs. I can hardly stand to look at him, let alone be with him under the same roof.
I find myself thinking about our problems feeling even more hopeless. I want to believe in law of attraction. I want to believe I can create my reality, but I sure as hell don’t want to believe I created this.

I’m about to give up on LOA and my marriage.




I’m so sorry you’re going through all this. I can only imagine how frustrating and scary it is. That’s coming through loud and clear.

I’ve got two things to share with you. First of all, a list of positive aspects is not a turning point. I suspect you’ve figured that out. A daily meditation on a list of positive aspects might be.


Because words on a piece of paper don’t mean anything to the Universe. The Universe can only read the energy, and the energy of your dominant vibration is frustrated, scared, and angry. You can read that list 100 times a day and it will be useless unless you can resonate with the energy of the positive aspects.

Dominant vibration rules the day.

Secondly, my advice to you is this. Make a list of YOUR positive qualities and start focusing on them and BEING them. I don’t know what’s going on with your marriage. I don’t know what kind of a jerk your husband is being. What I do know is all change starts with you. Like it or not, that’s where you’re at. It’s where we’re all at.

If you raise your dominant vibration, your husband might meet you there. He might not. However, he sure stands a better chance of being someone you like if you are being someone you like.

Take your focus off your husband, and focus on you. Once you’ve been focused there for awhile you’ll know what to do.
More than anything I want to tell you, everything is going to be Okay.

If you separate from your husband, everything will be Okay.

If you stay married forever, everything will be Okay.

No matter what, everything will be Okay.

Sending you all the love in the world,



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Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the newly released hit book, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan.

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