I really do see life through rose colored glasses, whether I’m strolling along the beach with sand in between my toes, sniffing early spring’s soft purple lilacs, or watching a heavy rain fall in sheets in late summer. There is an intoxicating promise inherent in new love and a deep intimacy that comes with the love of a lifetime.
And, as you might have guessed, I am a hopeless romantic – that’s why I entered the love business, wrote two books on love and relationships, coached hundreds of clients to get the love and life they dreamed of and, at the end of the day, none of that has made me an expert. Rather, this is what made me an expert:
You’d be hard pressed to find anyone who has hosed up their love lives the way I have. I’ve had relationships that left me bone dry and bankrupt in nearly every way (I’ve even come close to Chapter 7 when one love went awry.) I’ve been in romantic partnerships that have tried to kill me off (once with a kitchen knife and once staring down the barrel of a gun.)
While my double life looked like Gucci and Manolo Blahnik on the outside, on the inside the “closet” was on fire and there was little chance of saving a single empty shoe box. No one else knew what was really happening inside my home and heart.
Today, were you to glance at my life, you would suppose someone waved a magic wand over it. I’m living a life I once hardly had the courage to imagine – I’m wildly in love with the man I’m married to, I have two amazing children and I wake up in a beautiful home to do work that feeds my soul and my bank account. It’s easy to be a hopeless romantic from where I sit now because it doesn’t feel hopeless anymore.
But, it wasn’t a magic wand exactly. It was deliberate creation and if I can do it, you can too. I think there are rose colored glasses for everyone. Reach out and let me use my experience to guide you.
“It was one of those days when it’s a minute away from snowing and there’s this electricity in the air, you can almost hear it. And this bag was, like, dancing with me. Like a little kid begging me to play with it. For fifteen minutes. And that’s the day I knew there was this entire life behind things, and… this incredibly benevolent force, that wanted me to know there was no reason to be afraid, ever. Video’s a poor excuse, I know. But it helps me remember… and I need to remember… Sometimes there’s so much beauty in the world I feel like I can’t take it, like my heart’s going to cave in. ” – American Beauty