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The Enlightened Woman’s Guide to Having it All
I stop having everything or even anything worth getting up for when I start thinking what I’ve got isn’t enough. I can choose to love what I have or not. But when I do love it, that is all there is. That is everything.
read moreBe Naked
Being naked isn’t about the clothes you wear or do not wear to bed. Being naked is about a willingness to be vulnerable and be seen. It’s about allowing someone to actually touch you physically or emotionally. Emotionally naked is the sexiest state of all.
read moreMonday Mailbag – How Can I Get Him to See it My Way?
By: Lisa Hayes Dear Lisa, My boyfriend and I have been together almost a year. For the most part it’s been great, but we have had some bumps along the way. One of the biggest issues we fight about is time. I would really like to be able to spend more time with him, especially on the weekends when neither of us are working. Sometimes he’s up for that. Sometimes not. He likes to keep his schedule open. He prides himself on being spontaneous. So, even when we do see each other it’s usually on very short notice or none at all. This is...
read moreWhat is Love?
To me the short definition of love is something you do. Not necessarily something you feel. Love is a verb.
read moreWhy Unification is the Death of a Marriage
A relationship is bigger when two people bring their whole selves to it and breath fresh air through, when the space they take up forces the relationship to expand. Relationships do not feed themselves.
read moreIs Being Gay a Choice?
You’d have to be living under a rock in the U.S. not to have heard about the debate over gay marriage and gay rights. In the last week I’ve received no fewer than a dozen emails asking for comments about the debate or advice about how to deal in a family when someone comes out. No matter which side of the debate you’re on, it probably feels like an issue of morality to you. Some feel it’s morally wrong to “be” gay, while others feel it’s even more morally wrong to discriminate against gay people. The question in the debate that always irritates me the most is this, “Is being gay a choice?”
read morema·nip·u·late
When you grasp the concept of manipulation for what it is, a human reflex instead of an act of force you can relax around it rather than fight against it. You don’t have to put up walls. You can put on music and dance. No villains. No victims. Just souls playing together trying to be happy.
read moreThe Power of Self Talk
We’re all doing it, almost all the time. We talk to ourselves. Most of us, at least most of the time manage to contain the voices inside our heads to our heads. However, don’t kid yourself. You have an inner voice and you are listening to it. The voice inside your head is either your greatest enemy or your best friend and most powerful ally. The good news about that is you have a lot more control of that voice than you probably think.
read moreMonday Mailbag – Everything Changed and I Feel Trapped
If you let go of wishing things were different and start to embrace this as the new normal, you might still feel the pain, but the suffering will subside.
read moreYou Will Lose Everything
Nothing lets you see into your into soul as clearly and sharply as loss. That’s not a fluke of human design. It’s a wake-up call. The good news is you can wake up before the suffering shakes you from your walking sleep.
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