What You Need To Do Before You Start Dating
By: Lisa Hayes
If you don’t believe something exists, no matter how badly you want it, chances of you getting it are pretty slim. Let’s face it, we’d all like to have a pet unicorn, but I bet none of us are building glittery stables, or checking out Craiglist for the Unicorn listings in the pets and farm animals category. Might seem obvious. However, you’d be surprised how many women are looking for their dream man who think all men are dogs, and I’m not talking in the cute and cuddly way.
When I ask a woman who is dating how many cool men she has in her life, or even knows through other people, it’s not at all uncommon for her to say, “none”. Chances are that woman has had a lot of evidence in her previous dating life that men suck. Probably when she’s looking at her married friends, she sees a lot of a**hole husbands. She might hate her male co-worker(s), and think her brother is an idiot. She may even have “daddy issues”.
That woman should not be dating, and yet, very often she is.
She has Unicorn Syndrome and Unicorn Syndrome leads down a trail of broken hearts.
Life has a way of providing us evidence for whatever we choose to believe.
It’s a fact. That’s why personal perceptions can vary so widely from moment to moment, depending on who’s doing the perceiving.
At this point in my life, I see great guys everywhere. I have a lot of incredible men in my life. My dad is one of the greatest men that ever lived, and my sons are amazing. I’m married to the best guy on the planet. I have really cool male friends. I have some really top notch male clients. Heck, some of my ex’s are actually awesome.
let me assure you, it wasn’t always that way.
There were many years of my life when I believed most men were either players, or liar loser takers. That did not stop me from dating though. I had Unicorn Syndrome. However, I’ll give you three guesses what kind of men I ended up dating. Let’s just say, they weren’t awesome dudes.
At some point, I realized the insanity of my pursuit and decided dating was a lost cause.
Thank heavens a couple of my friends actually landed some really incredible men. Watching them seal the deal on happily ever after broke the evil spell. I finally began to believe the illusive and formerly mythical “good guy” still existed. Once I noticed that, evidence that supported that new belief started showing up in spades.
If you don’t see a whole bunch of really great men in and around your life, you have no business dating. Trust me, it’s not because they don’t exist. It’s because you’re current beliefs are blocking you from the evidence that they do.
If you’ve got Unicorn Syndrome, take yourself off the market until you’ve massaged your beliefs and see evidence all around you that it’s raining epic men. It doesn’t take much evidence to open the door to a flood of possibility. It IS raining epic men, so you’ve got the light of the truth to guide you on this quest.
Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the newly released hit book, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan. She is also co-founder of Good Vibe Coach Academy, specializing in LOA Coach Training. To get Lisa's FREE Audio, "How to Talk to a Man" click here. You may also purchase her book - Score Your Soulmate.