How Can I Tell How He Feels About Me?

theomzone • October 9, 2017

It's actually pretty obvious

Dear Lisa,

I’ve been dating a guy for about four months. Things seem to be going really well, but I’m scared. I have a hard time trusting my own judgement. I’ve misread the signs before. To be honest, maybe I’ve seen things that weren’t really there because I wanted to.


I like this guy and want this to work out. How do I know if he is into me when I can’t trust my own judgement? I don't have the best track record and I'm scared.


Anna

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Anna,

You are not alone. Most of us have probably found ourselves there at some point or another, wondering if we were reading the signs in a relationship right.


However, it’s not as complicated as we might think. Guys are pretty easy to read if you know what to look for.
When a man has real romantic feelings for a woman he will have an instinct to want to make her happy and he will act on that. So, this isn’t about lip service. This isn’t about a man who says all the right things. This is a man who does things and behaves in ways he believes will make his woman happy.

Men by nature are doers. Behavior tells the truth when words may not.


At any any point, whether it’s four months in or four years in, when a relationship is in balance, a man will sincerely get pleasure out of seeing the love of his life happy. He will act on that. Additionally, he will work very hard to avoid making her unhappy. It’s that simple.


So, when in doubt ignore everything a man says about how he feels and pay very close attention to how he behaves. The truth is always in the doing.

Lisa

*This letter has been shared with permission and names have been changed.

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Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the newly released hit book, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan.

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