I Want to be a Woman of a Certain Age

theomzone • October 10, 2017

We should all be that lucky.

I want to be a woman of a certain age.

I want to earn my laugh lines. I want to cackle like a madwoman who doesn’t care who’s watching. I want to laugh until I cry or maybe even pee my pants, just a little. I want to find humor in things that only someone who’s seen some things come and go, can find. I want to giggle with children because I’ve learned what they already know; nothing is ever that serious.

I want to be wise. I want to see everything as a lesson. I want to mine every single experience for what they teach me. I want to see the things I couldn’t have seen when I was younger and so focused on myself. I want to settle into the unknown with a childlike excitement because knowing the endings ruins the surprise.

I want to be wild and steady all in the same step. I want to saunter like I know where I’m going, especially when I’ve never been there before. I want to swagger like I’m being watched by every man or woman in the room and own that like a queen. I want to dance and inspire anyone who sees me to dance with me.

I want to be a woman who knows herself and loves what she sees when she looks in the mirror. I want to own my sexiness because I’ve grown out of my insecurities. I want to be grateful for the body that carries my soul. I want to be grateful for my body because she brings me pleasure. I want to share that juiciness as a gift because I’ve had more than enough to share generously.

I want to be a woman who says fuck it often, and hell yes even more often. I want to know life is short and live each moment like it matters. I want to dig for and fight for my desires. I want to be the woman who’s willing to go to the mat for a single moment of joy. I want to know in my bones I’m passed the age of asking for permission.

I want to earn the privilege of growing older by living on purpose and with abandon. I want to savor the sunsets. I want to right, wrongs. I want to fight the good fight and then take a nap. I don’t want to be wise beyond my years. I want be a brilliant star soul that carries the wisdom of many lifetimes.

I want to be a woman of a certain age, and I want to be her now.

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Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the newly released hit book, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan.


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