I have NOT stopped talking about deliberate creation.

SA Trigger Warning on this video and in this post.

Yesterday after sending out the first installment of my new program, The Master Class, I got a message from someone who was a client on and off for years. I adore this woman. She was writing to let me know she no longer adores me.

She wrote, "I used to trust you as someone who taught Law of Attraction material. You were a source of upliftment and inspiration. Now every time I hear from you, I wonder what happened. I am not interested in getting emails or messages from anyone who would title a podcast, 'The world is Going to Sh*t'. You can unsubscribe me from all your stuff. After listening to your twenty-minute podcast, I am going to have to listen to several hours of Abraham-Hicks to rehab my vibe."

For the record, that wasn't exactly the podcast's title. It was about reclaiming your power by creating intentional beauty in your life but..

...fair enough. My work has changed.

I have NOT stopped talking about deliberate creation.

I have stopped following, quoting, teaching, or sharing the work of Abraham-Hicks and several other Hay House-type guru authors/teachers whose work has no foundation in reality or science.

I have extracted myself and my work from wishful thinking, happy thoughts only, spiritual dogma. I will not peddle teachings that bypass hard feelings, ignores the suffering of others, or mood shames.

Leaving the "just get happy" club was not easy. It was a bit like walking away from a cult - go figure.

I left people I cared about behind.

I lost clients.

I'd read all the books.

I listened to all the audios.

I'd taken classes and taught classes on material directly or loosely based on Abraham-Hicks.

AND I regret that- all of it.

Here is the thing: While Abraham-Hicks might be inspirational, the work is also blatantly racist, often dismissive of humanity, and deeply rooted in victim-blaming, and at times, especially when related to trauma, it is dangerous.

I have told people my sexual assault happened because my vibration was a match for that experience. I never went as far as to say I created it. However, I did take responsibility for being in vibrational alignment with being raped. I did that because I was TRAINED to do it after years of listening to teachings like those in this video.

As time passed, my LOA beliefs regarding my rape probably did more damage to me emotionally than the assault itself did. The assault lasted a little more than an hour. I blamed myself for decades. What I believed was profoundly damaging to me. That kind of weaponized spiritual fluff has no foundation in science, no matter how often anyone repeats the words Universal Law (you know, like gravity...).

All of that said, I believe science supports deliberate creation.

I believe we can leverage focus to influence reality.

I also believe coaches sometimes get a bad rap because, like other humans, we tend to lean into group (cult) thinking.

Quick, quippy quotes like, "Just get happy," are very marketable.

It's easy to sell something that simple.

However, the one-liners and many teachers who spew them cause too much harm, mostly unchecked and unchallenged in personal development spaces.

The fact that anyone is still teaching and working with clients on the foundation of gurus who are more interested in pristine vibes than humanity is irresponsible. It diminishes us all.

When I was teaching that material, I didn't know what I cannot ignore now.

I had to stop.

If that means someone doesn't like my work anymore, so be it.

There are other coaches who will be happy to sell you all the "get happy now" vibes.

PS

If I am too much of a downer these days, and you want more unicorns and rainbows on your timeline than I can dish out, you should unfollow me. If you can't find the unsubscribe button on my emails, shoot me a DM. I will manually remove you from my lists with all the love and happy vibes in my heart.

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Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the hit books, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan. Lisa also trains the worlds best coaches at www.thecoachingguild.com.