No One Will Take Your Pleasure Seriously If you Don't

October 17, 2026

Boring is not a good look on Anyone

By:  Lisa M. Hayes


Most women do not need more discipline. They need fewer things in their lives that require them to override themselves.


They already know how to be responsible. They know how to get everyone where they need to go, keep the difficult relationship functional, make the appointment, solve the problem, answer the email, swallow the irritation, and keep moving.


What would you change if being good at carrying something were no longer a reason to keep carrying it?


Maybe you would stop saying yes to something you dread.


Maybe you would hold a boundary without reopening negotiations every time someone is disappointed.


Maybe you would admit that the life you built five or ten years ago no longer fits the woman you are now.


Maybe you would take your own desire seriously.


This is a lot of what happens in my private coaching. We look at the actual architecture of your life. Your relationships, commitments, boundaries, habits, expectations, pleasures, and the rules you have been obeying without realizing they were optional.


Optimization bores me. I don’t want to turn you into a more optimized woman who can tolerate an even more crowded life.


I want the evidence of our work to show up in how you live.


If you've become very good at managing a life you're no longer sure you want, I'd love to help you build something different. Message me.


Private coaching is four sessions a month, plus support between calls, for **$650/month**.


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