4 Do It Today Ways to Upgrade Your Deliberate Creation Practice

theomzone • August 31, 2018

1. Play your own game.

And compare and despair isn't a game. It's a soul-sucking bad habit. If you want to fuel your deliberate creation practice with pure rocket fuel, be you, do you, for you.

Trying to be some version of someone else will water down your magic. Trying to emulate someone else's success will keep your own dreams at arm's length. You are made of mystery under your own constellation of stardust. Every single thing about you is unique. Morphing yourself into a lesser version of you to fit in someone else's box is disconnects you from miracles that should be your second nature.

Worship the things that make you different. Feed your wildest dreams. Create some righteous chaos. Do it on your terms.

2. Stop complaining.

No one loves some juicy complaining more than I do. It's a guilty pleasure - kind of like crack cocaine. However, the problems with complaining and crack cocaine are they both become an addiction and they both leave you feeling bad about yourself and your life choices.

Sure, I know. Sometimes you've got to get it off your chest because holding your feelings in isn't healthy. However, once you've processed your feelings, regurgitating that stuff for entertainment purposes it's good for you or your vibration. The overall toll of complaining on your vibration makes complaining a very expensive habit.

Additionally, when you complain, you are focused squarely on things you do not want and we all know where that leads. You don't want to stoke those embers, because those small little embers can become a forest fire that's fucking hard to put out.

3. Stay in your lane.

There is a saying, "There is your business, other people's business, and God's business." If you follow that equation, surprisingly few things will fall in the category of your business.

I know the seduction of straying out of my lane. I know how satisfying it is to take responsibility for things that aren't mine or aren't my business. I mean, no one can handle shit as well as I can. Right?

But here's thing. There is only so much energy in a day. When you're spending your energy on stuff that's not yours, you end up in an energy debt pretty quickly. It takes energy to build a life you love. It takes energy to manifest. If you're wasting your energy on stuff that's not yours to do, you won't have the juice you need to fuel your own life. It literally bleeds your magic. When you do that it's no one's fault but your own, no matter how it might seem like you didn't have a choice.

4. Play make believe that you're a wildly powerful and slightly eccentric Sorceress every single day.

You know, like your every thought was powerful and eating your damn breakfast was a ritual that conjures magic.

A wildly powerful and slightly eccentric Sorceress knows too much to pretend that her thoughts weren't awesomely potent. She would manage her focus like it was a wand or a weapon. She would know her thoughts were a responsibility and treat them accordingly.

A wildly powerful and slightly eccentric Sorceress would do her day however she damn well pleased. She would never apologize for her feelings. She would treat the word "no" like a stand-alone sentence on the regular. She would consider setbacks minor inconveniences and simply cast a flamboyant new spell to get shit back on track - and that wouldn't be hard because she knows three or four thoughts strung together and mixed with some glitter can be a hell of a spell.

If you get up every morning and pretend you're the most damn magical creature on earth, you're going to notice yourself making miracles look easy.


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Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the newly released hit book, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan.


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