Being vulnerable is courageous and being rejected is intimate

If you put yourself out there because you want to be seen, at some point, you will probably be rejected. .

If you created something and want to share it with the world, or with a few people who might like it - at some point, you will probably be rejected.

If you lay yourself on the line because you want to be loved - at some point, you will probably be rejected. 

If you make an offer, 

If you share your thoughts,

If you take a risk,

If ask for what you want or even need,

If you step across the line from what is right now to what you want for tomorrow, you will probably be rejected at some point on that journey - 

and it will hurt, but you will live through it every fucking time. 

Here is the thing about rejection - it's usually not personal and even when it is, it really isn't. 

If you can take the hit and just put it all on the line again, you're already about one thousand times more likely to succeed than most because most people will freeze in place at the first sign of rejection. Rejection, big rejections, and small ones are painful AF. Honestly, there really is no small rejection - all of them feel big even when they aren't. 

Rejection is not a barrier—it's a catalyst. If you avoid it, you'll be stuck in a small, safe bubble, far from where you truly want to be.

Once you embrace the reality that rejection is inevitable, you can settle into taking bigger risks than you would have before. 

You're going to face rejection. 

Repeatedly. 

You'll gear yourself up, make your boldest move, brace yourself, give it your all, and then find yourself staring at a closed door, or tending a broken heart, wondering what went wrong as your hopes are dashed - and that's ok. 

Few achieve their dreams on the first attempt, regardless of their meticulous planning, abundant resources, or burning desire. Dreams come true are almost always built on a jagged trail of painful rejection.

Being vulnerable is courageous and being rejected is intimate. 

It opens you.

You will bleed. 

Rejection will make you both softer and harder. 

Rejection will show you what matters and what's fluff because the rejections that hurt the most tell you important things about yourself and your future. 

Embracing rejection is the highest form of self-respect.

Embracing rejection is the most potent form of self-actualization. 

Embracing rejection is the purest form of courage.

Embracing rejection makes you intrinsically more able to take the kinds of risks that change the world. 

Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the hit books, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan. Lisa also trains the worlds best coaches at www.thecoachingguild.com.