I wonder if my clients know...

July 4, 2024

I wonder if my clients know how much I obsess about them. I hope that doesn't sound creepy, but for real, I think about them all the time. I wonder how they are doing between our calls. I visualize the best outcomes for them all the time - 


-and that is easy to do because my clients are healthy and thriving. The future is bright for these brilliant souls. They have good things going and good things coming - not because they are working with me BUT because they are whole all on their own. 


I wonder if my clients know that when our work ends, they still take up space in my head and my heart completely rent-free, and I am totally ok with that. I carry their hopes and dreams in the same spaces I hold my own. I have a library of their stories in my head that are more precious than they will ever know. 


I wonder if they know I want them to reach out long after they've stopped paying me because I think about them and probably always will. I am grateful for the lessons I learned from them, which make me a better coach and person. I have never met a client I didn't learn things from.


A lot of my sessions end with "Love you." I wonder if coaching had a licensing board if I'd lose my license for saying that. I wonder if my clients know when I use the words "I love you," that is not fluff or a marketing ploy. I hope my clients ALWAYS feel loved and deeply appreciated in the container we make in our work together - especially when the work is hard and the waters are deep. 


I wonder if my clients know I believe in them, I am always on their side, and they mean incalculably more to me than all the money they ever pay me. 




Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the hit books, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan. Lisa also trains the worlds best coaches at www.thecoachingguild.com. 

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