We Are Not Doing Beach Body Bull Sh*t This Year

May 15, 2024

Divest from the male gaze

We are not going to do hot girl summer as cover for beach body bullshit this year.

We are doing well-fed woman summer.

We are doing delightfully satisfied and sexy summer.

We are doing I ate the ice cream and I loved it summer.

We are doing healthy and happy over not ever thin enough and hangry summer.


We are not going to measure value by size tags or numbers on a scale.

We are not going into a cold sweat in a dressing room with a stack of swimsuits.

We are not going to hide under a cover-up or sit in the shade wearing a t-shirt and uncomfortable shorts while other people are enjoying the water.


Show off your curves.

Get in the photo.

This is the only summer 2024 you will get.

You're never going to be younger than you are right now.

Own your fucking gloriousness.


The body you have IS a beach body.

If you don't feel gorgeous, chances are pretty high you're measuring yourself by standards of the male gaze dripping with white supremacy culture -

that shit is so very 2010.

This is 2024.


We are divesting from systems that peddle ideals that make us feel less than luscious based on images that are not achievable BECAUSE they are fake.

Love your body.

Love your life.



Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the hit books, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan. Lisa also trains the worlds best coaches at www.thecoachingguild.com. 


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