Love is Rebellion

February 4, 2025

They want us to turn on each other

They want us lonely.

They want us isolated,

disconnected,

afraid to reach out,

afraid to trust.


They want us turning on each other,

mistrusting each other,

competing for scraps.


They want us to believe that love is just romance, just desire, just a fleeting thing meant for a lucky few.

Love—real love—is dangerous to them.


Real love is the most rebellious thing you can feel in a world like this.

Real love isn't soft, or fragile, or tame.

Real love is wild. It is ferocious. It is messy and raw and alive. Real love isn't about looking away from the pain; it's about standing in the fire with someone and saying, "I see you. I'm not leaving."


Love doesn't mean forgetting the ways the world breaks us.

It means choosing to fight for each other anyway.

It means saying, "I will not let this system make me hard. I will not let it make me cold. I will not let it take away my capacity to feel, to care, to hold, to protect." That is the kind of love they fear.


This world, as they've built it is world is built on hatred and greed.

It thrives on fear, on disconnection, on convincing us that we're too broken, too different, too much or not enough to ever truly belong or make a difference.


But love? Love reminds us that we are not alone. That we never were. Love tears down the lie that we're meant to do this on our own.

Love isn't just romantic. Romantic love is a minor love.

Bigger love is in the way we show up for each other.

In the way we listen.

It is how we make space for each other's rage and grief without demanding that it be sanitized for comfort.

It is in the way we feed each other,

clothe each other,

fight for each other.


Love is when we say, "Your survival is tied to mine, and I will not abandon you."

That kind of love doesn't bypass the ugliness of the world—it stares it down. It says, "I see the violence, the hatred, the chaos, and I choose to protect you anyway. I choose to stand with you, even when it's hard. Especially when it's hard."


Love isn't passive. Love is action. Love is the way we resist a system that tells us we're disposable. It's the way we refuse to let that system steal our softness, our joy, our capacity to care. Love is rebellion because it demands connection in a world built to isolate us.

Let them call us too emotional.

Let them call us weak.

Let them call us dreamers, or idealists, or fools.


While they cling to their fear, their power, their greed, we will be here, choosing love. Choosing each other.

Love is wild. Love is dangerous. Love is ours.



If you are having difficulty walking through the wildfire that is the whole world right now, you don't have to do it alone.  I can help. 


I want to chat about the things you obsess over when you lie awake at night. I want to unpack your dreams and your nightmares. I want to talk about who you were before all that shit dimmed your shine and how to get her back. 


I’m not here to fix you because I don't think you're broken—I’m here to help you fall in love with yourself and your life again. No mood shaming, no gaslighting, just real, transformative coaching from someone with three decades of experience. Ready to reclaim your fire? Let’s set some sparks flying. DM me or check me out online at https://www.lisamhayes.com .


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