Rest is Resistance

February 12, 2025

Choosing rest is a radical act.

Make no mistake: The oppressor wants you exhausted.


The oppressor wants you so drained, so overwhelmed, so stretched thin that you forget who you are.

They want you too tired to fight,

too burned out to dream,

too busy surviving to notice the chains they’ve placed around your life.

The oppressor wants your exhaustion because your exhaustion is their power.


This system feeds on your overwork.

It worships productivity, not because it values you, but because it profits from your labor.

They’ve built a culture where rest is seen as laziness,

where slowing down feels like guilt,

where your worth is measured in what you produce—not in who you are.


Choosing rest is a radical act.

Rest is rebellion.

Rest is the quiet, steady way we say, “I will not be a tool for your machine.” It’s a refusal to let this system own us—our time, our bodies, our lives.

Rest is not weakness; it is strength.


When you rest, you remember.

You remember that you are not a machine.

You are not disposable.

You are not defined by what you can achieve or how much you can endure or produce.


Rest is a return to yourself, to your power, to your humanity.

And that terrifies them. The oppressor wants you too tired to see the truth: that your value was never tied to how hard you work or how much you give.


You deserve care, softness, peace—not because you’ve earned it, but because you exist.

The oppressor wants us to believe we have to prove ourselves to be worthy of rest. But we don’t. Rest is not a reward. It is a birthright. They tell us to hustle, to grind, to push harder—but all of that serves them, not us. The harder we work within their system, the more we prop it up.


Rest is the refusal to play their game. Rest is stepping outside of their rules entirely.

Rest doesn’t mean surrendering. Rest is what fuels resistance. Rest is what gives us the strength to keep going, to organize, to build, to create and recreate, to show up for each other.


Rest is not selfish; it is strategy. It is the fire that keeps us burning when they want us to flicker out.

And when we rest, we resist their demand that we disappear. We resist the idea that we’re only as good as what we produce. We resist their attempt to strip us of our humanity. Rest is refusal. Rest is a declaration that we belong to no one but ourselves.


So take the nap.

Close your eyes.

Step away.

Put down the weight they told you was yours to carry.


You are not lazy. You are not failing. You are reclaiming yourself from a system that was never meant to hold you with care.





If you would like some support finding your way to a deliberate practice fo sacred rest, DM me. I want to help.


I want to chat about the things you obsess over when you lie awake at night. I want to unpack your dreams and your nightmares. I want to talk about who you were before all that shit dimmed your shine and how to get her back. 


I’m not here to fix you because I don't think you're broken—I’m here to help you fall in love with yourself and your life again. No mood shaming, no gaslighting, just real, transformative coaching from someone with three decades of experience. Ready to reclaim your fire? Let’s set some sparks flying. DM me or check me out online at https://www.lisamhayes.com .


You can also find me at https://www.thecoachingguild.com/ if you’re interested in coach training.


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