My advice to you: Choose Expansion over healing as often as possible

Unpopular opinion:

An obsession with emotional healing is keeping you running in place with your trauma. 

Sometimes we need to put ourselves in park and get ourselves back together, physically, emotionally, or spiritually.

Sometimes things break, and you need to recover.

Sometimes, we will need help to heal what's hurt.

Sometimes a professional can make that healing faster, easy, and more transformative.

However, too often, healing becomes a hobby or a lifelong fixation. That kind of past-picking-orientation convinces you that you aren't ready to move out of your suffering because you still hurt.

Healing has become a multibillion-dollar industry. Many people, ranging from the solitary pain-point fixer to multi-conglomerate corporations, profit from peddling your healing in various doses. They will remind you until the day you die that you are broken.

Your pain is their profit.

But here is the thing:

Healing is not where the growth is.

Love the parts of yourself that cause you pain.

Love your hurt with so much heat that it sterilizes the wounds and clears the disease.

Love yourself madly, in all the madness and smallness with a fierce tenderness-

-then, for the love of Goddess and all things sacred, get on with it.

EXPAND

Expansion will heal you faster than any healing obsession ever will.

Expansion will show you where your heart is still tender.

Expansion will uncover the parts of yourself you didn't want to see clearly enough to care for before you decided to move ahead.

Expansion will force you to rise above your pain and experience yourself as whole.

Expansion is the most unrelenting therapist.

She will not let you repress.

She will not let you make excuses for your suffering.

She will not let you off the hook for not doing the work, internal or external.

She will not let you wallow or falter.

She might let you fall, but she won't let you stay down.

She sees you as powerful and wants you to see your power too.

Expansion will not take your shit.



You do not need fixing.

You are capable, worthy, and worth being loved as you are.

Nothing has to change for you to unfold into your bold and beautiful expansion.