The Ebb is Sacred Too

February 16, 2023

Don't get too attached to the flow

Life is full of ebbs and flows. Sometimes the tide is in. Sometimes it is not.


Both phases of the tide are profoundly powerful in their own way - and yet we tend to strongly prefer the flow and resent the ebb.


Ebbs are sacred too. There is treasure in the ebb.

There is softness when the water recedes.


If you know the tide will come back in, there is a calmness when life pulls back again -

and the tide does come back in, just as sure as the sun will come up tomorrow.

Love your ebbs with the unwavering certianty we love the beautiful pause of sunset.


Sit with the discomfort of waiting and learn to love yourself more deeply while the world is doing other things.

Hold yourself through the low tides.

Honor the ebbs.





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Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the hit books, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan. Lisa also trains the worlds best coaches at www.thecoachingguild.com. 



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