The Unfucked Life

April 9, 2025

Remembering Who You Were Before All That Shit Dimmed Your Shine

Somewhere along the way, you forgot.

Not because you were weak.

Not because you weren't trying.


But because survival stripped you of your essence and your fire.

You made yourself small enough to fit inside a life that was never made for you.

You traded your fire for approval.


Your instincts for safety.

Your power for belonging.

Now, you're carrying too much of what isn't yours.

You're holding a life that doesn't fit in your hands anymore.


You're haunted by the knowing—

that there was a version of you before all of this,

and she's still in there.

Not broken.

Not lost.

Just quietly, maybe even silently, waiting.

She's waiting for you to un-fuck yourself.


It's the life that feels like a deep exhale.

It's like kicking off shoes that were always too tight.

It's like coming home to your own skin without apology and realizing you still fit in that skin and that like.

It's not a perfect life.

It's not tidy or delicate or gentle.

It's real.

It's durable.

It's loud belly laughs after years of biting your tongue.

It's craving something more and not shrinking just because someone else can't handle your hunger.

It's saying yes to yourself and no to what no longer serves without guilt, without flinching.

The unfucked life is not something you buy, or manifest, or stumble into by accident.


It's something you choose.

Something you remember.

Something you rise for.


And coaching?

Coaching is not a pep talk.

It's not a list of habits to fix yourself.

It's not a cute little ritual to make you more palatable to the same world that broke your shine in the first place.

It is excavation.

It is unlearning.

It is the sacred undoing of every story that told you to be less.


And I'm good at this work—

not because I have all the answers

but because I know how to ask the questions that bring you back to life.

I will not let you settle.

I will not hold space for your excuses.

I will not confuse politeness with power.

But I will walk beside you through the fire.

I will hold your hand when it's time to unearth what's been buried.

I will remind you who the hell you are when you forget—

until the remembering is so loud, you never forget again.


This is your invitation-

-not to heal in silence.

-not to wait your turn.

-not to soften your edges to be easier to love.

But to rise,

to rage,

to reclaim,

to return,

not as the woman you were told to be—

but as the one who survived it all

and is ready to live like she was never ruined.


If that's you—

The unfucked life is waiting and I'm here to help you find it. 




I want to chat about the things you obsess over when you lie awake at night. I want to unpack your dreams and your nightmares. I want to talk about who you were before all that shit dimmed your shine and how to get her back. 


I’m not here to fix you because I don't think you're broken—I’m here to help you fall in love with yourself and your life again. No mood shaming, no gaslighting, just real, transformative coaching from someone with three decades of experience. Ready to reclaim your fire? Let’s set some sparks flying. DM me or check me out online at https://www.lisamhayes.com .


You can also find me at https://www.thecoachingguild.com/ if you’re interested in coach training.


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