This is the work of Kali

November 14, 2024

I urge you, don't waste energy hoping for the return of "normal." 

This isn't just another election cycle, another season of uncertainty. This is a reckoning, a moment of destruction and transformation that has been building, silently or not-so-silently, for years.

I know you're scared. I am too. The heaviness of this moment, the sense that the ground is shifting beneath our feet - it all feels like too much and it's natural to want to hide.


Right after the 2016 election, many of us in spiritual and witchy circles whispered about the fierce, unapologetic power of the goddess Kali Ma. Kali, the goddess of death and destruction, was seen as the perfect avatar of that time's upheaval.


We spoke of her with awe and respect, thinking that her influence was simply a shadow passing over us. But we were wrong. Kali wasn't passing over. She was stepping in, settling in for the long haul. And she's still here, dismantling what no longer serves us, burning away what's rotten and hollow. It smells like rot. It feels like a vast dark emptiness. We hoped it would be a lot more temporary than it will be, and we know that now because here we are again.


2016 was merely the opening act. That was her knock at the door. This, right now, is the crushing middle of her cycle of destruction—a cycle that demands everything from us. If we're honest, most of us know we're not yet at the light-at-the-end-of-the-tunnel part of this story. We felt it on election day - there was a palpable sense of her presence in the air. Kali is not done with us.


We are knee-deep in the chaos, in the unmaking, and yes, it's terrifying. But Kali's gift isn't just death and destruction; it's rebirth. For her, death is just the prelude. Every collapse, every dismantling, every letting go is making room for what's next.


And here's the truth that might shake you: the "normal" we keep grasping for isn't coming back. There is no going back. Kali's path is forward, through the wreckage, beyond the structures that are crumbling. Our task is not to resurrect what's been lost. It's to build something entirely new, something that honors this moment of evolution we're living through.


There's a quote in The Last Jedi that nails it: "Let the past die. Kill it, if you have to. That's the only way to become what you were meant to be." This is where we are—letting the past die, not out of bitterness, but out of necessity. Kali has led us here, forced us to sit in the fire and watch the old ways burn away, leaving us raw, unsettled, and eventually reborn.


This is the work of Kali: she makes us participants and spectators in the grand dismantling, at both the personal and societal levels. And though it's uncomfortable, we are not here by accident. We're being called to envision a world that doesn't yet exist. We are the creators, but we are also the created, being shaped by this fire and tested by the dark.


So, I urge you, don't waste energy hoping for the return of "normal." Instead, let's ask ourselves the real, potent questions: What must I let go of to become the person I was meant to be? What do we need to release, even if it feels painful, to become the people we are meant to be?


We can't beat Kali, so maybe it's time to join her. What if we leaned into the destruction and found strength there? What if we forged ourselves anew in the very fires that scare us? Now is the time to dream the rebirth. To plan for it, create space for it, and summon it into being with every intentional step we take.


You are not here by accident. We are a chosen generation, walking with Kali through one of her most profound, unapologetic, and transformative cycles. In the history of humanity, very few have had the fortune, or the courage, to walk this path. This is your story, your myth, your legend in the making.


Make the most of it. Embrace the undoing, lean into the fear, and welcome your own rebirth.




If you need support walking through this moment, hit me up.


I want to chat about the things you obsess over when you lie awake at night. I want to unpack your dreams and your nightmares. I want to talk about who you were before all that shit dimmed your shine and how to get her back. 



I’m not here to fix you because I don't think you're broken—I’m here to help you fall in love with yourself and your life again. No mood shaming, no gaslighting, just real, transformative coaching from someone with three decades of experience. Ready to reclaim your fire? Let’s set some sparks flying. DM me.

You can also find me at www.thecoachngguild.com if you’re interested in coach training.



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