Walk the fuck away
Walk the fuck away the first time you realize you're lying to yourself about the person who lies to you.
The quality of every single facet of your life will be determined by your willingness to walk the fuck away and what it takes to get you there, BECAUSE the longer you stay when you shouldn't is a costly calculation.
Walk the fuck away the FIRST time they lie.
Walk the fuck away the FIRST time they make hurtful jokes at your expense.
Walk the fuck away the FIRST time you feel suspicious whether you can prove he did something they shouldn't have or not.
Walk the fuck away the FIRST time you feel even the slightest bit threatened by their anger or his possessiveness.
Walk the fuck away the FIRST time they blame you for their bad behavior.
Walk the fuck away the FIRST time you notice you regret trusting them.
No. You do not need proof.
No. You do not owe them an explanation. People fuck up early and often. We usually ignore it. If you end the first time it happens, chances are about 100% you don't even owe them a phone call.
No. You do not need a "good enough" reason to punch your ticket out.
Shady shit is shady shit and the second you realize you're walking in it, step away, clean yourself up, and keep walking.
How would you define your relationship if there were no words,
no promises,
no explanations?
They always behave exactly WHO they are.
They will be who they are in almost every relationship they have. The chances of you being an exception to someone's track record with others are remarkably slim to probably none.
They can only keep up a farce for a very limited amount of time. They will show you everything you need to know about them a lot quicker than most of us want to admit - and when they do, your future happiness, success, and well-being will depend on paying attention and acting accordingly.
Yes, people make mistakes - however, gaslighting yourself into thinking all mistakes are equal and everyone deserves forgiveness is just that - gaslighting yourself. We know better than that, and frankly, not every mistake is forgivable, and not everyone is worth forgiving.
But the longer you stay when you shouldn't, the harder it is to go when you should.
Every hour you stay when someone has shown you they aren't worthy of your time is an investment in a fantasy that feels more and more real with every empty apology and second chance. The more you invest in that fantasy, the less there is for you to give until you start giving parts of yourself that will not regenerate when the whole thing goes up in flames.
You can stay too long to ever fully recover.
Walk the fuck away the first time you realize you're lying to yourself about the person who lies to you.
Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the hit books, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan. Lisa also trains the worlds best coaches at www.thecoachingguild.com.
