Assemble All Your Selves and Celebrate the Reunion

August 7, 2024

Your selves are probably scattered about and they are waiting for you.

Become a collector of all of your selves.

Call into the void of all the directions and invite every one of your selves to return to you with love. 

Gather each fragmented bit, each part of your essence, each container of memories that houses a previous identity. 


Excavate all of your selves as if each holds the key to your wholeness. Collect your selves as if each of them were rare and priceless. 


All of your selves are potent and important, even the ones that seem outdated or obsolete, even the selves that seem damaged or broken. Love them home. 



Reclaim your personas.

Reclaim your roles, one by one.

Scrutinize each aspect of your selves and confront the challenging questions about who you aspire to be versus who you think you are. 


Discard your titles and all your names. 

Embrace your raw, exposed, and real selves. Discover the love within you that transcends all labels, seeing the gloriousness of your selves naked and whole.


Call out through the night of your soul and the wind of your heart for all your selves to come back because they are loved. 

They are important and valid in their parts and in their wholeness. 


Reclaim your greatness, the vast expanse of your potential. 

Reclaim your vulnerability, the delicate strength in your openness. 

Reclaim your humanity, the sacred essence of your being. 

Reclaim your innocence, the purity of your untamed spirit. 

Reclaim your courage, the fierce fire within your heart. 

Reclaim your joy, the radiant light that illuminates your soul.


Reignite an intimate relationship with all your selves.

Assemble all your selves and celebrate the reunion. 




Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the hit books, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan. Lisa also trains the world's best coaches at www.thecoachingguild.com.



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