Pleasure isn’t irresponsible—it’s radical medicine

We’re living in a culture that wages war on pleasure.

Everywhere you turn, there’s another message that says: work harder, grind longer, deny yourself, numb out, keep going. Rest is laziness. Desire is selfish. Pleasure is dangerous.

But here’s the truth: hedonism and discipline are not enemies. They are mutuals. They hold hands. Pleasure is not what keeps us from our power. Pleasure is what fuels it, especially for women. Discipline is nearly impossible to sustain without the pleasure that feeds it.

The patriarchy thrives on our exhaustion. Capitalism thrives on our apathy. When you are too tired, too numb, too disconnected from your own body to feel joy inside your own skin, you are much more likely to buy useless shit and much, much easier to control

That’s why they would rather have you hypnotized by a screen than lit up by your own aliveness. Scrolling, streaming, consuming—numb and docile, watching commercials and mistaking it for connection. To them, that’s safer than you being wild, ecstatic, and awake.

Pleasure is medicine. It is a responsible, radical, and necessary act of political subversion.

Your laughter is resistance.
Your rest is rebellion.
Your ease is an uprising.

Be soft with yourself.
Eat the food.
Drink the wine.
Lounge in bed in the morning if you can.
Have the sex.
Masturbate instead.
Touch your skin.
Touch someone else’s—with a deep well of consent and intimacy.
Dance until you sweat.
Sing until your throat is raw.
Laugh until your belly aches.
Rest until your body feels whole again.

Stop believing the lie that you have to choose between being disciplined and being hedonistic. Both belong to you. Both make you whole. And the world needs you whole.

And if you’re ready to rewire your life around pleasure—not as a guilty indulgence but as fuel for your power—I can help. Coaching with me is $625 a month for four sessions plus support in between. That’s the investment.

This is the work. This is the most important work you might do this year, this chapter of your life, or maybe even this lifetime.