Your healing is allowed to be slow

December 5, 2025

The truth about healing that no one says out loud

You are allowed to return to yourself at any pace that feels real.
Not the pace someone else expects from you.
Not the pace of the internet, your family, your past, your coping patterns, or the version of you who pushed herself to move faster just to prove she was okay.


Your healing is not a race.
Your reclamation is not a deadline.
Your becoming does not need to be inspiring or impressive or tidy.


It only needs to be true.

Some seasons ask you to leap.
Some ask you to crawl.
Some ask you to rest until your hands stop shaking.
Some ask you to take one honest step and then pause long enough to feel the ground underneath you again.


There is no shame in slow healing.
There is no failure in pausing.
There is no weakness in pacing yourself.
There is only the quiet courage of refusing to abandon who you are becoming by rushing past her.


You get to come home to yourself gently.
You get to unfold at a speed that does not fracture your nervous system.
You get to reclaim the parts of you that were lost or quieted or softened for survival.
And you get to do it without apologizing for the time it takes.


Real change has its own rhythm.
Real healing honors the body, not the pressure.
Real growth happens in the space where you let yourself breathe, feel, and listen again.

So if you are moving slowly right now, trust yourself.


If you are rebuilding, trust yourself.
If you are finding your way back in tiny, imperfect steps, trust yourself.

You are allowed to return to yourself at any pace that feels real.


And that is enough.




I want to chat about the things you obsess over when you lie awake at night. I want to unpack your dreams and your nightmares. I want to talk about who you were before all that shit dimmed your shine and how to get her back. 



I’m not here to fix you because I don't think you're broken—I’m here to help you fall in love with yourself and your life again. No mood shaming, no gaslighting, just real, transformative coaching from someone with three decades of experience. Ready to reclaim your fire? Let’s set some sparks flying. DM me or check me out online at https://www.lisamhayes.com .



You can also find me at https://www.thecoachingguild.com/ if you’re interested in coach training.

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