Your body remembers the harm the world asked you to normalize.

There is a point where “mindset work” stops being supportive and starts becoming harmful, especially for women, for people of color, and for LGBTQIA+ communities who have been systematically taught to internalize the blame for pain they did not create.

When healing is framed only as a mindset issue, it erases the conditions that shaped the wound.

It turns oppression into a personal problem.It asks individuals to fix themselves instead of questioning the systems that hurt them.

You cannot “shift your mindset” out of racism.

You cannot “stay positive” through queer-phobia.

You cannot “manifest safety” in a culture that legislates your existence.

You cannot breathe your way out of patriarchy, or journal your way out of generational trauma, or vibrate your way out of structural harm.

And yet so much of the coaching and wellness world asks marginalized people to do exactly that.

It teaches them to adjust their attitude instead of recognizing the violence.

It tells them to regulate their nervous system instead of naming the abuse.

It reframes systemic inequity as a mindset problem so the system never has to change.

Mindset work without context quickly becomes compliance training.

It sedates anger that should be felt.

It spiritualizes harm that should be confronted.

It teaches people to tolerate conditions that were never meant to be tolerated.

The system is at the root of almost everything.

And mindset can only be safely shaped after the system has been acknowledged as part of the problem.

Without that clarity, mindset work becomes a tool for protecting the oppressor by keeping the oppressed emotionally quiet.

Real coaching holds the full truth of a person’s lived experience — their identity, their history, their culture, their trauma, their position in the world.

It never asks someone to override who they are for the sake of appearing “well adjusted.”

It never frames injustice as a personal failing.

It never implies that racism, queer-phobia, misogyny, or structural violence can be overcome through mindset tweaks.

Healing that ignores context is not healing.

It is gaslighting.

Liberation begins the moment we stop pretending mindset alone is enough, and start honoring the systems that shape our bodies, our brains, our emotions, and our lives.

And if you’re ready for coaching that honors your full humanity, your context, your identity, and your lived truth — not just your “mindset” — reach out.

I work differently.

I don’t teach people to perform positivity.

I walk with them through the real terrain of their lives, their bodies, their history, and their becoming.

If you want support that doesn’t shrink you or silence you, send me a message.

We can talk about what real, grounded, context-aware coaching could look like for you.