🔥 Until They Fear Us 🔥

February 27, 2025

Men have only ever had one primary strategy: violence.



For centuries, they have ruled by force.

They have taken what they wanted.

They have beaten, raped, silenced, and killed.


They have passed their violence down like an inheritance, wrapped in laws, wrapped in religion, wrapped in the smug certainty that we would never rise up - because we were taught to be good girls.

To be small.

To be nice.

To be grateful that we were not the ones buried in shallow graves.

They told us to smile.

To be polite.

To say “please” and “thank you” when we are asking for the right to exist.

And still—they kill us anyway.


🚨 Men are not the leading cause of death for women, but they are a leading cause of fear. 🚨

We grow up learning the rules for survival.

Don’t walk alone. Don’t drink too much. Don’t wear the wrong thing. Don’t make him angry.

We are afraid to walk home at night.


Afraid to say no to a date.

Afraid to leave.

Afraid to stay.

Afraid that the next man we love will be the one to kill us.


But what if—for the first time in history—they were afraid instead?

They will say #NotAllMen.

But the numbers don’t lie.

The women who never made it home don’t lie.

The bodies pulled from the ditches don’t lie.

The bruises don’t lie.

The restraining orders don’t lie.

The whispered, “I think he might kill me” does not lie.



They Have Used Force to Control Us.

But We Are Smarter. And We Are Ready.

Men have only ever had one primary strategy: violence.

They use it to break us.

To own us.

To keep us in line.

And because we are the ones who bleed, we have been taught that we are the weaker ones-

-but we are not weak.


We are smart.

We are strategic.

We have spent thousands of years surviving their brutality, and we have learned every single one of their weaknesses.

We are ready.


They were never afraid before because they thought they didn’t have to be.

Because they believed we would never fight back.

But something is shifting.

Because we are done begging for mercy.

And if the only language they understand is fear?

Then let them learn what it feels like to tremble.


A Reckoning Is Coming.

They have spent generations teaching us that might makes right.

That fists and guns and brute strength are the only real power.

But what happens when we decide to believe them?


💥 What happens when women stop waiting for justice and start delivering it?

💥 What happens when abusers start going missing instead of their victims?

💥 What happens when the next man who raises a hand to a woman has to wonder if she will put a bullet through his skull before he gets the chance?


For the first time in history, let them feel what it’s like to live in fear.

Let them hesitate before grabbing a woman’s wrist.

Let them second-guess following her to her car.

Let them wonder if tonight is the night that they don’t make it home.


Here’s the truth:

We will not be free until they are afraid.

Not just afraid of “getting caught.”

Not just afraid of losing their job or their reputation.

Afraid of us.

Afraid of what we know.

Afraid of what we are capable of.

Afraid that the next time they try to hurt us, they might not survive it.

And when that day comes—when they finally fear our wrath the way we have feared their violence.






I want to chat about the things you obsess over when you lie awake at night. I want to unpack your dreams and your nightmares. I want to talk about who you were before all that shit dimmed your shine and how to get her back. 


I’m not here to fix you because I don't think you're broken—I’m here to help you fall in love with yourself and your life again. No mood shaming, no gaslighting, just real, transformative coaching from someone with three decades of experience. Ready to reclaim your fire? Let’s set some sparks flying. DM me or check me out online at https://www.lisamhayes.com .


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