Why Chasing Validation is Stealing Your Happiness

September 5, 2024

Reclaiming your power and your peace today might be doable.

Imagine the energy you could reclaim if you gave up the exhausting need to be right and the relentless craving to be liked. Both are chains, shackles you voluntarily wear. They sever you away from joy and peace. They dissolve your presence and make you a player in the drama of everyone else's ego.   


The truth is that being right doesn't fill your soul, and being liked doesn't fill your heart. They are illusions. They distract from the things that have meaning in your life. They leave you wound up with energy that you can't spend in a healthy way. 


What if you funneled all that wasted energy into simply enjoying this precious, beautiful, crystalline moment?

Instead of striving to win battles that don't even matter, you could pour yourself into laughter, love, and gratitude-filled living.


The freedom that comes from letting go is the doorway to a life lived fully—free from the grip of external validation. It's the sweet release of embracing yourself as you are, without needing to justify your existence to anyone.


What if you stopped trying to control every conversation, stopped bending yourself to fit others' approval, and instead just focused on the art of living?


The world keeps spinning, regardless of whether or not we're right, and real, core-deep peace waits for you at the intersection of surrender and self-love. Let go.


Make room for joy, because life is too damn short to spend it on battles that steal your light.



P.S.

If you are looking for a coach to walk right beside you on the journey to this kind of freedom, shoot me a message.

I want to chat about the things you obsess over when you lie awake at night. I want to unpack your dreams and your nightmares. I want to talk about who you were before all that shit dimmed your shine and how to get her back.


I’m not here to fix you because I don't think you're broken—I’m here to help you fall in love with yourself and your life again. No mood shaming, no gaslighting, just real, transformative coaching from someone with three decades of experience. Ready to reclaim your fire? Let’s set some sparks flying. DM me.



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