The Radical Rethinking of Self Care as a Form of Prayer


No matter how I package it up, at the end of the day, I’m in the self-love business. From where I stand, that’s really what coaching is all about. If you love yourself the way you should everything else gets handled.

You ask for what you deserve.
You aren’t afraid to lean into your genius.
You won’t take shit you don’t deserve, which is none by the way. You don’t deserve shit from anyone.

People think the whole concept of self-love is slippery. It can seem hard to truly define or achieve. However, self-love isn’t as nebulous as it sounds. Love is always a behavior before it’s anything else. So, it stands to reason that if you love yourself, you will act like it. You will act like it by treating yourself like someone you love.

Can you see where we’re going here?

If you love yourself the way you like to think you do, you would be consistently nailing your self-care. If you want to experience that warm fuzzy feeling of self-love more, you’d be doing an even better job at rocking your self-care.

And yet, so many women and men for that matter do not nail their self-care. They will say they love themselves, and yet still ignore their most basic needs altogether. That my friend, is not self-love. If you say you love yourself and you’re taking care of everyone else first, while you’re running ragged, and all dried up, you are lying to yourself about that loving yourself business.

So, here’s a question for you. If your level of self-care is an accurate indicator of your level of self love, (and it is by the way) how are you feeling about yourself right now?
So, let’s take this up another notch.

I fundamentally believe I am an extension of divine source energy. I believe God lives in me. I’m not alone in that belief. I’m guessing, when you ponder the big questions of life in the multiverse, you believe something similar.
You know the drill. Namaste: The divine is me honors the divine in you.

Think about that for a moment, really. That’s more than just a new-age style, yoga class greeting and salutation. It’s actually some life changing, soul shifting, truth there.
If the divine is in me and the divine is in you, don’t you think we both owe it to ourselves to honor that presence with some worship?


Would that change way you approach the behavior of self love?

It should – probably starting today.

You are worthy of your own devotion. If you aren’t expressing that devotion you are ignoring the Divine, who resides in you.

I know how it sounds when I use the words, “self-worship” It sounds vain. It might even feel offensive. However, true self-worship isn’t an ego trip. It’s a sacred responsibility because you are an expression of God/Source, and it’s done through devoted self-care.

Give the divine in you a healthy peaceful body to express itself through.

Make a temple for yourself.
Create rituals.

Treat yourself like you would treat God, because you are, and anything less isn’t nearly good enough.


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Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the newly released hit book, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan.

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