Conflict Kung Fu is a system of communicating that is without force. You don’t put the other person in a position to have to defend anything. There is no conflict because no one has to be wrong.
When you make someone else an excuse for not being your best self, your relationship with that person is at great risk.
I’m in charge of this moment. That is all. This moment is all there ever is anyway. Alignment happens moment by moment.
This year on Valentine’s Day you might both have a better time if your focus was less on “romance” which is kind of intangible, and instead focused more on dedicating the day to making your man feel loved, which is very tangible.
People always ask me how do you start loving yourself, when you just don’t know how. The answer is simple. Treat yourself like someone you love and the feelings will follow. Feelings always follow behavior.
If you want to be valuable, treat yourself like something you value. It’s that’s simple.
Circumstances and schedules aren’t an excuse. Not taking care of myself is lazy and selfish. The people around me deserve better than me showing up like a broken down bag lady.
The next time you’re panicked, trying to find a way to avoid something, you might want to consider taking the back door to peace and plan for the catastrophe instead.
Some people will wake up a year from now and barely be able to remember what they left behind in the dust of a previous life. Some people will find a “why” that’s bigger, louder, and more determined than all their “why nots”. Some people will elevate themselves so high they can see heaven. They will stand so tall on their dreams they can touch God himself.
The bottom line is when you find The One it’s less about who he is than it is about who you are when you’re with him. Who he turns out to be might surprise you. Who you become in relationship with him is the very best more joyful version of yourself.