Are You Drinking Your Own Vibrational Poison?

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I'm going to be honest. I'm a girl who can do irritation like an Olympic gold medalist. I secretly enjoy irritation and even as I write that I am cringing a little. However, where some people might tend to flow anxiety, I often roll in a flow of being irritated. It's my vibrational poison of choice.

Why?

Because when I'm irritated I get to feel self-righteous. I get the satisfaction of feeling like I'm better than someone or something that has irritated me. And let me tell you, I do it well. It's a vibration I have nailed. I can fully admit I'm a little or a lot addicted.

There is this cashier at my favorite Target. She's worked there for a long time. I will stand in another cashiers line for ten extra minutes to avoid having to interact with this woman. She is loud and brash. She says some pretty inappropriate things at times and because she's so loud, it's hard not to notice.

I once watched her get very impatient with a woman who held up the line a bit while trying hard to sort her coupons for diapers and baby food. I'm still not over it. I especially do not like the glittery reindeer antlers she wears every damn day from October 15 until mid-January every year - and I know she wears them every day, because that's how often I am in Target. Additionally, I'm pretty sure she's racist. I'm not sure why I think that, but I do.

So, I can be having an amazingly blissful day when I walk into Target. My favorite Target has upgraded the cosmetics department to look and feel a lot like a department store. I can spend some quality time there. Not to mention, I love to stand in the cleaning supplies section and smell all the new Meyers cleaning products looking for my next favorite scent. There is a Starbucks in my favorite Target. I like Starbucks.

But the minute I've got my cart full and I'm headed to the checkout line, if I'm paying attention, I notice it. My vibration starts to nosedive because I'm looking for Betty.

I could walk around the long way and go to self-checkout. I don't.
I could go to another Target that is closer to my house that also has a Starbucks. I don't.
I could be a grown up and ignore her shrill cackling laugh. I don't.

I stand there with my fabulous Target purchases and stew in my irritation. I swear that woman must work 16 hours a day. She is always there. And I get my hit. I stand there and feel all the feels of irritation. I glance disapprovingly in her direction often enough she probably recognizes me and regrets the day she got impatient about the coupons - or at least I like to think that's what she's feeling...

Which of course she isn't.
But I digress.

Inevitably when I leave Target, my day is just a little less sparkly. It takes just a little more effort not to yell at my kid. I'm a little less excited about my Lemon Verbena Meyers cleaning spray then I was before. And I'd like to blame Betty, but I can't.

My choice to focus on how irritated I am with her for even a couple of minutes might give me a hit of self-satisfaction but it's costly and how costly exactly depends on the day. If I'm already teetering on a less than desirable mood, it can put me over the edge.

Notice I said choice because that's always what it is. Our thoughts don't ever think us, we think them and focus is always 100% in our control, 100% of the time, even in Target.

Now before you judge, let's face it, you also have a vibrational poison of choice. We all operate on feeling state addictions. We have well-practiced vibrations that highlight contrast and that's ok as long as you understand you're not your feelings.

There is a difference between saying, "I'm feeling anxious" or "I am anxious". We are not our feelings. We are never a victim of them. We choose our focus which dictates our thoughts that create emotion - period.

When I can say, I'm feeling irritated, I recognize that I AM not irritation. I can turn it off just as easily as I turned it on.

There are very few things in life worth voluntarily giving up your feel good and we all know that. Certainly, Betty from Target isn't worth it. The key to working that is realizing it's all voluntary.

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Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the newly released hit book, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan.