What Does Self Care Mean To You?

theomzone • October 12, 2017

When you hear the words self-care, what do you think?

A lot of women think it’s a nice concept or platitude. A lot of women think self-care somehow is self-indulgent. Some women think they are doing pretty good at self-care and think that’s going to have to be good enough because they have too many other things to do.


However, the reality of it is, self-care directly equates to energy, energy of all kinds, and without proper self-care we simply don’t have energy to stay above the curve.

That means we don’t have energy to stay healthy, physically or emotionally. It means we don’t have

It means we don’t have energy to sustain positive changes in our lives. It means we don’t have

It means we don’t have energy to give others, so when we are giving it isn’t really giving, it’s sacrificing.


There are really four levels of self-care, and understanding how that directly translates to energy really helps.


1. Level one – bare bones self-care.

This means living, but not thriving. This is literally just enough self-care to stay alive. You’d be amazed how many women operate here for years, literally. This kind of self-care keeps the machine running, but not well. With bare-bones self-care, you age faster, and life feels like it’s happening to you. Bare bones self-care is really just about enough food and sleep to keep going one more day.


2. Level two – maintenance self-care.

This means you are doing just enough self-care to stay physically healthy. You are slightly above the curve when it comes to having enough energy for your body to maintain it’s basic functions. You know you might be at this level of self-care if you have enough energy to get through the day without feeling completely exhausted or emotionally depleted. Even at this level of self-care though, it feels like things pretty much stay the same. The general vibe in your life isn’t going down, but it’s not going up either.


3. Level three – living and thriving self-care.

This level of self-care means you have enough energy to be healthy and enjoy your life. You have the energy to share freely and feel spacious and creative in your life. You feel like you’re building a life in a co-creative way. At this level of self-care most people have enough energy to sustain positive changes in their lives in the form of changing basic habits or behavior patterns.


4. Level four – super creator self-care.

When people are trying to use deliberate creation principles to build the life they want, sometimes we forget, that it takes energy to bend energy. This means if you don’t have enough energy on board to sustain your basic functions and life at the level you’re living it, it’s much harder to be a successful deliberate creator. A self-care superstar has a surplus of energy of to create with. Having a surplus of energy is like being a battery fully charged up. It’s very powerful!

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Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the newly released hit book, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan.

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