3 Rules for Women for First Dates Most Experts Would Disagree With


I was recently asked for comment for an upcoming article about the book, He’s Just Not That Into You. Generally speaking, I really like that book. I agree about 98%. If the dating women of America would read that book and take it to heart, I’d lose half my client base. However, there is that 2% exception, where the rules of the book didn’t exactly work, and if a woman had followed them, she’d have missed out on something great.

Speaking of rules, a lot of my clients religiously follow the guidelines in the book, The Rules. Again, for the most part, I really like the book. Women could learn a lot of tools that would probably serve them well from that book. However, in some situations, The Rules, aren’t quite flexible enough, and I think it’s possible a lot of great guys get left in the dust because they weren’t aware there were rules they needed to be following.

My point is, when it comes to dating, much like everything else, there is an expert or a book that will tell you just about anything, when in fact, there is no one way to do anything. People are unique and every situation is different. Thinking there is one set of rules that always applies is naive at best, lazy at worst.

If you want a list of my 3 Common Sense Rules for Women for First Dates that Most Experts Would Disagree With, watch the video.

However, if you don’t want to spend your time on that, I’m going to give you TWO rules for dating that will yield happy results.


#1. Don’t do anything if you’re feeling needy, insecure, or you are looking for validation.

Don’t pick up the phone or send that text if you’re doing it because you want to know he digs you. Don’t ask a guy out just to get the validation that your pretty or worthy in some way. Don’t get needy or lonely and start making someone else responsible for making you feel better. Be honest with yourself. Only do anything when you feel empowered and certain. Period.

#2. Listen to your intuition.

Date however makes you feel most confident. Do what feels best. Always, always, listen to your gut. When you are acting from your place of power no one knows better about what’s best for you, than you. Be your own expert.


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Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the newly released hit book, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan.

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