There are very few absolutes when it comes to finding great love. However, one thing I know for sure is this: Almost everyone I know who found the love of a lifetime in what seemed to be a magical effort-free way, was absolutely having a blast being single.
I know that was the case for me. After years of beating myself up against the rocks of dating, I finally decided to surrender to the possibility that I might be single for a long time, or may forever. When I accepted that, I decided I was going to do single right.
I quit waiting for a man to do anything, especially anything awesome. I set myself a goal that I would have the life my married friends would envy. It didn’t take long to knock that goal out of the park. It did take a substantive shift in my way of being.
Being single and sensational is a hybrid combination of attitude and action. It’s a perfect mix of moxie and adventure.
It starts with a decision and making that decision brings waves of freedom and inspiration.
Here are the four easiest ways to sensational and single:
1. Be an explorer.
Travel a lot. Explore things near and far.
Be a tourist in your own neighborhood.
Make day trips a regular part of your schedule.
Weekends spent sightseeing are way more attractive than weekends spent in from on the TV.
Get a passport and get some stamps in it.
A lot of women don’t like to travel alone. Badass women get off the sofa and get in planes, trains, and automobiles. There is almost nothing more empowering than seeing the world solo.
2. Be a life student.
Go to yoga.
Learn to cook.
Learn a language.
Learn to manage money like a boss.
Learn to change your own oil.
Learn to knit.
Find a temple of your choosing and spend time unfolding yourself there.
Become a sponge and soak everything up.
Growth is very attractive. Smart is sexy. When you’re single, you have more time and energy to personally develop yourself than you will ever have again. Don’t waste it.
3. Buy all the awesome things you really want.
A lot of single ladies postpone making big-ticket purchases until they have a partner. The rub to that is once you are partnered, you rarely get to buy the things you really want. You have to compromise.
If you want a house with a garden, buy that.
If you want fabulous furniture, buy that shit.
If you want a luxury car fit for a queen, go get that.
Waiting for a man to score your big ticket desires may very well mean you don’t ever get them. If that man never comes along, you might be waiting forever. If he does show up, you still might not the goodies.
Bottom line, if you want awesome shit, make it happen now.
4. Indulge yourself in super-luxurious self- care.
I’m not talking about eating three meals a day and getting seven hours of sleep a night. I’m talking about Five Star Spa, spoiling yourself.
You can afford to get a massage once a month.
You can give yourself a facial every week.
You can make your bedroom a retreat and your bathroom a spa.
You can invest in your wardrobe, and your makeup, and buy the perfume your heart desires.
You can, and you should do those things. You should do more. You should spoil yourself the way you want someone else to spoil you someday. Someday isn’t guaranteed to anyone. You’re worth spoiling right now.
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Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the newly released hit book, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan.
Posted on 04/06/2016 at 12:00:00 AM