No Magic Pill

theomzone • October 11, 2017

People usually come to coaching because they’ve been stuck with something for awhile. They either want something or want to change something that seems hard or elusive. Everyone is looking for the magic pill. They are looking for that one hidden truth or limiting belief that will unlock effortless. Everyone wants an “ah ha” moment that changes everything. Trust me, I can deliver a river of “ah ha” moments and even at flood stage, ah ha’s alone, don’t change a damn thing.


I’m here to say it, once and for all. There is no magic pill. No book holds the answer. No coach can save you. No guru has a magic secret formula.



You have to be willing to manage your thoughts.
You have to be willing to control your focus.
You have to be willing to decide who you want to be and become it.
You have to design, own, and live your truth.
You have to DO the change you’re looking for.

Change does not have to be hard. Real change usually happens on a dime, with a thought, and a decision, but it has to be done. Nothing and no one can do it for you. Deciding to do it is the hardest part. The Universe supports change. The wind is at your back when you decide to grow. Staying stuck and small is actually harder.

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Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the newly released hit book, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan.

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