3 Ways To Focus More On What You Want Before You Have It

theomzone • October 8, 2017

Focus is everything

There is really only one way to leverage your power as a deliberate creator. You have to be focusing on what you want more than what you don't want. The tipping point everyone talks about is that point where the thing you want has your dominant attention.

You can't game the field of potential on this one. You can meditate your head off on what you're trying to attract an hour a day, and if you spend the other twenty-three hours noticing that it's not there, it's not coming.

While you're intentionally focused you crack the door for the field of potential to deliver, but when you shift your focus in the other direction you close that door as quickly as it opened.

That can lead to a lot of LOA frustration. You feel like you're doing the work, but nothing is shifting. It's like spinning your wheels. You're doing the work, just not enough to move the dial.

Simply put, you have to be in the vibration of having what you want 51% of the time if you want to get it. At 51% your manifestation is probably brewing slowly. If you could be there 80% of the time things will probably be moving very quickly.

But, how do you focus on what you want when it's so obviously missing?

1. Pretend you are the person who already has it.

Notice I didn't say pretend you had it. I said pretend you are the person who already has it. There is a difference.
And that difference matters a lot. The field of potential doesn't really care about your stuff. It notices what you're vibrating, and you vibrate what you are.

Pretending to be someone else isn't that hard. Kids do it all the time. Think about the words "make believe" . You are merely in the process of making something you believe. It's that simple. You don't have to believe it to do it. You are simply in the process of forming a belief through practice.

2. Play with the thing you're trying to attract before you actually have it.

Do you want that new shiny sports car? Test drive it. Get your hands on the wheel and feet on the peddle.
Take in the smell. Notice how it feels when you accelerate.

Do you want a new lover? Go spy on some couples in love. Find a park or a restaurant that's hot on date night. Notice how they talk to each other. Take some notes on how they flirt. Enjoy watching lovers in the wild. Soak it in.

When you get out of your head and into the real world with your manifestation, it gets easier and easier to stick your focus.

3. Think about why you deserve what you're wanting.

Make it a habit. Every single time the thing you're desiring crosses your mind give yourself a list of reasons you deserve it.

We all like the feeling of deserving. Reminding yourself of all reasons you've got this coming will make it more natural to stay in the flow of focus.

Bonus: The field of potential can only deliver what you think you deserve. So, by practicing your deserving you're speeding up the process significantly.

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Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the newly released hit book, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan.

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