I Want to Have an Honest and Transparent Conversation about Self-Care

July 20, 2023

What is your real time and money investment in you?

I would like to talk about self-care. 

There is a lot of talk behind the scenes in my coaching neighborhood about how self-care needs to be deconstructed and decolonized BECAUSE it has become such a commercialized concept that often costs a shit ton of money and takes a massive amount of time. 


When discussing self-care publicly, particularly regarding celebrity culture, we often talk about the money. 

However, when I talk about self-care in client sessions, people often talk about the investment of time and how difficult it is to make that time.


So, I am curious, how much both time AND cash do you invest in your self-care?

Let's discuss.


Below is my list. 

I am not perfect with this - but for the first time in a long time, (maybe ever), I can honestly say, I am doing my best, and it has made a difference in my life. 



Meditation

20 minutes -- Free


Wim Hof breathing 

20 minutes -- Free


Facial Exercises

15 minutes -- Free

For the last couple of weeks, I have been failing at this. 


Skincare

5 minutes -- Probably $20 a month


Exercise (Rhythmic Metamorphosis) Somatic Dance and Breathwork

20 minutes a day - $20 a month for virtual membership

For the last couple of weeks, I have been failing at this. 


Hot or cold exposure

20 -40 minutes a day -- Free (I own an infrared sauna and use my ice-filled bathtub)


Supplements 

10 minutes a day - God only knows how much I am spending


Get to bed, lights out before midnight.

Free 

I fail at this almost every day


500-1000 affirmations or incantations 

Free - 30 minutes


Morning ritual time

Free - 15 to 20 minutes


Eye rest/Brain rest

Free - ten minutes


I probably spend $20 a month on makeup and $40 a month on perfume.


I do my own hair. 

I do not go for mani/pedis

I am surrounded by an abundance of coaching - but I do budget to work with a coach every few months. 

My husband is an Occupational Therapist who gives the best massages.


If you need some help pulling together a self-care plan that feels, organic, realistic, and isn't all about the money you have to spend, hit me up, and let's talk about it.



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Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the hit books, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan. Lisa also trains the worlds best coaches at www.thecoachingguild.com. 


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