Before you have another argument with someone you love over something that seems important today, you won’t even remember a month ago, let me offer you this public service announcement:
Almost nothing really matters, but the very few things that do matter, matter a lot.
I think in the day to day business and busy-ness of life, especially between two people it’s really easy to forget that.
It can seem like it matters who takes the garbage out.
It can seem like it matters who snores the loudest.
It can seem like the electric bill is a big deal.
It can seem like it matters who sleeps and who has to get up with a crying baby.
It can seem like the cars matter, and the clothes matter and status is a big deal.
All of those things and many more can appear to be crucially important, but chances are very high all of that seeming importantness is an illusion.
You can justify your position and make it mean a lot of things it doesn’t have to.
You can hang on to small stuff until it’s enormous, but at the end of the day, week, month, year, and lifetime, almost none of that stuff matters.
What matters is that there’s love in a home.
What matters is that everyone is fed and safe.
What matters is that you’re still together in a world that tends to tear people apart.
Beyond that almost nothing really matters, unless you make something nonessential a distraction.
Very few battles with someone you love are actually worth winning for the damage they might cause. Even if that “might” is a small might, or the damage would be small, you have to ask yourself, “is it really worth it?”
Will this matter tomorrow, or next week, or next year?
Does it really matter at all right now?
Pick your battles wisely knowing that no one ever really wins a war.
True happiness lies in the understanding that almost nothing is really that important and the willingness to cherish the very few things that actually are, letting everything in between go.
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Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the newly released hit book, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan.
Posted on 06/01/2014 at 12:00:00 AM