What Management Gurus Know About LOA And Relationships

My husband recently took a course at work they require for managers. The premise is most managers devote about 80% of their energy to a very small percentage of employees who are having trouble and causing problems. As deliberate creators we know what happens when you focus on problems, you get more of them. Apparently, we aren’t the only ones, because business management gurus know this too. When a manager focuses on his or her problem children, the rest of the department aches for attention. Things go unchecked. Good behavior and big producers go unnoticed and feel unappreciated. Since the manager pretty much only manages problems, pretty soon there are more problems than can possibly be managed.

I’m pretty sure this is human nature. People tend to notice things that are broken or are irritating, whilst the rest of life tends to blend into the background. The good stuff is there, but the hard stuff or problems are more pressing. You can’t ignore them because if you do things get worse, so you focus your attention on what’s wrong. You notice what hurts. I woke up this morning and my neck was wrenched with spasms. The rest of my body felt great. Do you think I noticed my very relaxed legs? No. I didn’t even try.

It happens in relationships too, in a big way. People get very aware of the things that are irritating about their partner. One or two little habits that get your attention and annoy you can very quickly turn into living with someone that drives you insane. One “serious” problem in a relationship can overshadow, hundreds if not thousands of other things, big and small, that are working between two people. The problem is, it happens very quickly. Negative focus and attention is a fast acting poison that gets into the systemic energy of a relationship.