Here’s an obvious statement. Men and women process information differently. Additionally, they communicate differently. The one thing we have in common is a natural bias to thinking the way we see the world is right. So, when you have a man and a woman sharing the same experience and seeing it differently, there is a normal tendency to think one person is right and the other person is wrong.
The reality is both people are likely right. When it looks like two people are seeing things differently, it’s quite possible that they are simply seeing different, yet accurate information. So, if a man and woman can work together when they are processing things, they can actually have access to much more information and make better decisions.
As a man, this is what you need to know, just because a woman is emotional doesn’t mean she’s irrational. Emotion and logic can be two sides of the same coin. In fact from a higher point of view, there is a lot of innate wisdom in emotion.
A woman’s natural tendency to being emotional gives her more information about what other people are feeling than men have.
A woman’s natural tendency to being emotional allows her to slow down more than men might want to, because she has to process the emotional input, so she’s less likely to rush through making decisions.
A woman’s natural tendency to being emotional makes her more likely to look for an outcome that “feels good” to both people. So, by her nature, she’s on your side also when there is a disagreement. That means she’s probably a superior negotiator.
There is always a spectrum of information on the scale when you are making decisions about what’s right and wrong. Because of a man's tendency to be more emotionally neutral he has access to some of that information more easily. However, if you discount what’s on the other end of that spectrum for your woman, you are dismissing facts that are probably just as right if not more so at least part of the time.
As a man, you are not doing yourself any favors if you dismiss a woman because she’s emotional. You will both be better off in the long run if you can learn to find your way through the emotion to the heart of the matter and meet there.
Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the newly released hit book, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan.
Posted on 10/09/2012 at 12:00:00 AM